15 Jul Dealing With Unfulfilled Goals
The word “goal” is used to describe things we have the immediate means to accomplish as well as the big-picture dreams that we have for our whole lives: the skills we want, the career we want, the lifestyle we want. Sometimes these latter goals can be years away, and we have a lot of stepping-stone goals to accomplish before we get there.
No matter how much ambition we have or how prepared we are to do everything it takes, sometimes the goal is one that we know will take not just hard work but almost inevitably a longer period of time than we’d like. So how do we deal with having (temporarily, of course!) unfulfilled goals without getting frustrated?
Make Your Ambition Active
Having ambition these days has to mean that we have active ambition: ambition that is not just a desire but a desire that we show to the world by working hard to fulfill our goals. The world is increasingly busy and interconnected; the information and avenues available to us can be truly remarkable, but we have to take advantage of them. Not only does this move us along on our path, but it helps us be more confident and happy.
Make Milestone Goals
Every big dream has to have some little dreams that must be accomplished along the way. We all might have fantasies of fulfilling our dream right away – winning the lottery, suddenly having a talent discovered, simply getting lucky – but we also all know that these expectations are unrealistic. It’s much more likely that we’re succeed – and we can be more proud of ourselves – by trying to be the best we can be and fulfill our potential by taking action. This means setting up goals to help us on the way to our biggest ambitions.
No matter what your long-term goals are, there are milestones to reach before you can completely fulfill them. Sit down and reflect on how you could measure progress towards your goals. By creating milestones or stepping-stone goals, we can mark our progress and remind ourselves that our hard work is paying off.
Meet Yourself Where You Are
It’s important to have not just work-life balance but dream life-life balance! Sometimes an unfulfilled goal can weigh on our mind. It’s important to continue to enjoy ourselves – you don’t need to be working towards your goal every minute of every day. We shouldn’t let ourselves slack, either, but becoming obsessed with our goals is detrimental to our health, happiness, and relationships.
Even more destructive is to get caught up in frustration about what you have not accomplished. We can use our past disappointments to spurs us on, but lingering on what we don’t yet have can destroy our ambition.
Sometimes we are doing exactly what we need to do in order to eventually fulfill our goals, but we do it so very well that we lose our focus. Do something to remind yourself not only of your goals, but to remind yourself of who you are and what is important to you in life.
Reconsider Your Goals
You may want to reconsider your goals from time to time. Sometimes we are confident in our dreams, although we know they may take a while to fulfill. But sometimes we have goals that we feel should be relatively easy, yet we never seem to reach them.
Reconsidering our goals can mean that they change slightly, or it may mean we realize that we now have a new dream – or need to figure a new one out.
The ambition mindset is one that requires dedication and focus, but it can also lead to a lot of fun and a lot of satisfaction. Especially when our work stretches out over a long period of time, we need to find ways to refresh, re-energize, and plan for the future with confidence.
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